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What can I say, friends. Words fail me for the sudden disappearing act I did all these months. And yet, I know – I fully know – I owe each one of you an explanation. A genuine explanation for why I almost abandoned this space. One week of no-blogging dragged on for weeks, and weeks into months. It never felt right. And yet, I did it. I was carrying a big burden on my chest for not talking to you and yet I didn’t speak a word. Ungrateful is a word or a trait that’s just not me and yet by not communicating with you to let you know about my whereabouts, I’ve not exactly conveyed my gratitude to you for being the loving and supportive readers that you are.

Today, after four months, I have an overwhelming feeling to open up my heart before you. I hope you’ll give me a patient hearing for I wish to reconnect with you like never before….

Once I fell into this trap of “I’ll write next day/next week…”, it seemed I was moving farther and farther away from my writing muse. The frequent traveling (for family functions) in between didn’t help my case either. Each time I would go – “Oh, why don’t I come back from this trip and start all over again…”. But in between all the un-packing, unwinding and repacking for the next major trip+family-function I could never get into my writing groove. Well, however much I love traveling, I dread weddings and functions for the sheer pre-work involved. All that shopping and making arrangement for sarees and jewelry and footwear. You know how Indian weddings are – rows of ceremonies and rituals! Well, if North Indian weddings are lavish, South Indian weddings are packed with religious rituals. There’s a ritual (puja) at every turn of the clock and you’ve got to deck yourself up (in minutes) in the resplendent Kanjeevarams enhanced by shimmering gold jewelry. Whoa, man. Lesser said the better!

And yet, would you believe me – I dodged every bit of shopping still managing to put together all my ensembles by borrowing from my sis-in-law, from my mom and by digging deep into my 10-years-old stock – way back from my own wedding. I did have to make quite a few errands to the local tailor for blouse alternations etc. But boy, am I happy (and proud) to have saved on thousands of bucks. I’d have hated to have splurged on stuff that I’d only wear once a while. All said and done, I’m also happy that I got a chance to dress up elaborately in the traditional Indian way, which I rarely do.

A South Indian Wedding

So, was this the sum of all the reasoning behind my blogging sabbatical? Umm..well…there’s something else (and a big one at that) that I’ve been wanting to share with you. Something else that did put a dampener on my writing spirit. You see, the hormones in my body were undergoing a sort-of metamorphosis causing dramatic effect on my mind and energy levels. And, no matter how much I tried fighting the unsettling low, there was no way I could swing it in favour of writing. The hormones – yes folks – the motherhood hormones surging within – due to this newly being taking shape inside me – were relentlessly demanding that I take time off the virtual world and focus on connecting with myself.

So, there I go. I’ve said it. (But hey, no – I wasn’t deliberately building a curtain-raiser up so far! I’m telling you in the flow that I would have if I was having a conversation with you.) So, I’m five-months pregnant now and the journey this far has been a roller coaster. The first three months especially, when I had a tough time fighting nausea and lethargy and sleepiness. I’d wake up to puke, manage to finish the morning chores around house and go back to sleep. Wake up to prepare lunch (with a handkerchief on my nose) and go take a nap. Come evening (and night) and my creative spirits would get alert and acute. I’d want to paint, cook, bake, craft…do anything except touch the laptop. What!

God knows I’ve missed writing and I’ve missed you all, my friends. And yet, however much I tried, I couldn’t bring myself to blogging. I did write a few blog posts but never got around to publishing because I wasn’t inspired enough. I’ve gone completely off social media. I wasn’t into it much anyways but in the last few months I haven’t seen the face of facebook.

I can’t explain this. But, my intuitive side tells me that it’s my baby who’s been guiding me to connect more and more with my soul and its yearning for creativity. I feel, the soul of my kidoo is wanting me to give vent to my innermost creative desires. Pottery. Origami. Cooking. Sewing. You know what, in the first trimester, inspite of being low on energy, I took up tasks (along with Pari) that needed high initiative and energy levels. Both of us took to baking with a gusto. I’ve embraced a brand new hobby – pottery and clay modeling – and am loving it to the core. It’s been a few months now but I am very sure I want to take it all the way through and master this art. Amen. Give me a scrap of paper and I want to make a box, a crown, a flower out of it. Origami is giving me a new high.

Sharing a few pictures here of my clay pots thrown on the wheel. Hope you like to take a peek into my newest passion.



If you ask me how’s my journey been so far on the road to becoming a mother for the second time, I’d say – it’s been about truly being me. As compared to the first time when I was in a high-adrenalin corporate job and a thorough workaholic at that,  this time, it’s been about listening to my body, mind and heart. I’m taking the time to sleep when my body’s asking me to; I’m listening to my creative instinct and painting, cooking, baking, meditating with clay on the wheel. I get exhausted sitting at the wheel for hours together, my back aches, but the joy I feel is beyond words. The exhaustion lasts a bit but the calm that I feel lingers for a long time.



Today, I felt the sheer force of words flowing out of me. And hence, I sit down to write. I’ve written this post so far without deleting a line. And, I’m not going to edit and refine etc. I want it all to come from my heart. For that’s how I can reconnect with you all. I hope you’re there for me, my dear readers. Many of you sent me emails and facebook messages to know if I’m doing fine. A heart-felt thank-you to you all. I hope to continue writing, now that I’ve resumed with this post.

I want to share with you my joy, my learnings and the spiritual connection I’ve felt with myself and my baby’s soul – leading upto the next few months. Wish me positive energy and good vibes. :-)

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  • Fab June 27, 2013, 5:41 am

    Congratulations!!! Your family must be thrilled! I’m glad you’re past the nausea phase and are enjoying your pregnancy now. You look great in that photo!

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:34 am

      Fab – thank you for your wishes. Yes, I’m so glad the nausea phase is over. I’m loving the journey now along side Pari. :-)

  • rashmi June 27, 2013, 8:35 am

    hey great news..Many Many Congratulations..Take good care of yourself..
    Wish you safe and healthy preganancy..Pari must be so happy :-)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:35 am

      Many thanks, Rashmi, for connecting here. :-)

  • Alli June 27, 2013, 6:16 pm

    Welcome back and best wishes!

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:35 am

      Thank you, Alli :-)

  • Shruti June 27, 2013, 7:10 pm

    Rashmiiiiiiiii :) congrats to both you and Avi… enjoy the phase. handling 2 is a tough task ;)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:37 am

      Thank ya, Shruti. Yeah, I know – about enjoying the phase now for later it’s going to be mighty busy! Phew!

  • Deb @ Living Montessori Now June 27, 2013, 7:12 pm

    Congratulations, and welcome back, Rashmie! Wonderful reason for a life change! I just announced on my blog this morning that my daughter-in-love is 5 months pregnant! Sending you lots of love and best wishes. :)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:39 am

      Thanks a lot, Deb, and hearty congratulations to you and your daughter-in-law for a new member arriving in your family. You’ll be a granny – how lovely is that!

  • Kat June 27, 2013, 8:50 pm

    So great to see you back Rasmie, and lovely to read about your creative journey. Hope to read more from you soon. :)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:40 am

      Thank you, Kat. I’m looking forward to writing and sharing more here. Thanks again for your kind support. :-)

  • Kristi@Creative Connections for Kids June 27, 2013, 9:03 pm

    Congratulations on your news Rashmie! It is okay to savor the moments and take time for yourself and your family. Before you know it you will be preparing for Pari’s wedding. My youngest daughter announced her engagement yesterday and we’ll be having a wedding in just a few months. :)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:47 am

      Kristi, thank you dear, and heartfelt congratulations for your daughter. It must be such an amazing and unique feeling for you as a mother. I can’t fathom what it’ll be like when the time comes for Pari! Convey my best wishes to your daughter for her wedding and future.

  • Swapna June 27, 2013, 9:55 pm

    Congrats Rashmie and best of luck for your second innings of motherhood. I am sure Pari will be an awesome big sister. :)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:48 am

      Thank you, Swapna, for being here. Yeah, Pari is thrilled and is already taking her role quite seriously! :-)

  • Aravinda June 27, 2013, 10:35 pm

    Beautiful …. what an art you have of observing these connections and sharing them. Congratulations to your little one for bringing out these insights and to you for receiving.

    Well done on dodging the shopping.

    (so going to Tungarli was not a bad idea after all. Unforgettable day!)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:53 am

      Aravinda – thank you for your affirmation. Yes, I do feel the little one’s guiding me.

      (Tungarli – it sure was a day that was more than just picnic. Sharing with you amidst the flowing waters – was that not a sign?! Who knows!)

  • Rebekah @ The Golden Gleam June 28, 2013, 12:54 am

    Welcome back to blogging!

    I am on a blogging break right now, though, keeping up FB. But I still have this yearn to write and express myself creatively. But I think it’s good for me to take myself away from the pressure of blogging which I think only an extended break can do like you did for yourself. Now, you can focus on writing from the heart rather than the demands you feel to write.

    Looking forward to hear more from your beautiful spirit. And again many congrats!!

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 10:57 am

      Thank you, dear Rebekah. I can understand your blogging break. The motherhood journey that you have embraced – it’s nothing short of inspirational for me.
      I always thought writing is a natural part of me and I can never part with it. But, that happened! So, I now feel that motherhood can do strange things to us. haha.
      But then, I feel very motivated and rejuvenated with this come back. I think the words will flow out without any effort now. :-)
      Thank you again for being here, Rebekah.

  • Tricia June 28, 2013, 8:13 am

    Lovely post and so heartfelt and genuine! Big congrats to you! Sounds like you have a great perspective on what pregnancy is throwing your way this time around. Best to you always!! (fellow KBN friend)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 11:12 am

      Thank you, Tricia, for the lovely connection here. Yes, you’re right, this time around I’m loving the time that I have to myself to think, dream, make art and catch the cues from my baby. :-)

  • Jackie June 28, 2013, 8:15 am

    I’m so happy for you, Rashmie. And I’m glad you listened to your heart and soul, and took the break that you deserved. Hopefully now that you’re back, you won’t feel like blogging is a burden, but instead, something that you do WHEN you want to do it. Take care of yourself, Mama. :)

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 11:15 am

      Thank you, Jackie, for the wishes. Yes, you’re so right – when something that we do with passion becomes a chore, it’s time to step back and reflect. Glad I did that and now am feeling rekindled.

  • Pallavi June 28, 2013, 10:11 am

    Congratulations!!! It’s good to have you back Rashmie :) Pari must be very excited..so happy for you guys!

    • Rashmie June 28, 2013, 11:18 am

      Thank you, dear Pallavi. I’m so happy to be back in touch with you all.
      Yes, Pari is quite excited and wants to know everything that’s going on with me and the baby. :-)

  • Anuradha Shankar June 28, 2013, 5:38 pm

    Congrats!!! such wonderful news! and i was wondering where you were all these days!!!! Pari must be so excited. this is a wonderful journey for the two of you! all the best and take care!

  • dr alka July 21, 2013, 6:18 pm

    hi rashmi …congratulation.take good care of yourselves. I hav been following your blog for some time ,it has been very helpful…..I would like to know about the pottery..what all is needed and ametures can learn it by themselves..it seems you hav becom quite an expert in the art..